New Year’s Resolution #1: Make a List of New Year’s Resolutions
I’m sad that the holidays are over. It’s my favorite time of year - lots of family time, decorations, and over-indulging. It’s totally my thing. It’s also crazy stressful for me and not for the normal reasons. I don’t mind hosting family, buying and wrapping gifts, and having lots of holiday plans. That doesn’t cause me stress. It’s the anticipation of getting back into a normal groove post-holiday that causes me stress. Putting my house back in order, getting back to a normal work schedule, sending the kids back to school, and bracing myself for a crazy long and cold winter in Chicago.
And then of course there’s the expectation that a new year means a clean slate to improve, change, start, or end something. The new year’s resolution is a bandwagon I’ve never jumped on but in the spirit of making changes, I’m going to set my sights on these 10 things for 2018.
- Make a list of things to accomplish.
Making lists is supposed to be therapeutic and I agree! I love making lists and even more so I love crossing things off. So here goes…
- Carve out more me time.
This is something I’m going to have to do if I want to accomplish most of the things on this list. My “free time” usually consists of errands, scheduling, laundry, and cleaning. I really want to let some of my OCD go so I can make time for writing, movies, and maybe yoga. We’ll see about that last one though. As much as I want to love yoga, I just don’t.
- Spend more time with my kids doing what they love.
This means I’m going to be sitting in the basement playing Star Wars Battlefront - barely able to work a controller; and building a marble tower for the 10th time even though it’ll be destroyed 30 seconds later. But it’s precious time for each of my kids who all have very different interests.
- No more diapers.
I’m throwing myself a party when this happens. My youngest is 2 ½ and showing minimal interest but this is happening! I’m done with diapers.
- Meal and snack prep.
I actually want to cook more. Right now our dinners look the same almost every night: meat/fish, veggie, rice. It’s easy and requires zero planning. I have a crock pot and an internet full of ideas and recipes that I never use. It’s time for some new and more exciting go-to’s.
- Work more proactively.
At a startup, it’s really easy to become reactive when approaching tasks. I’ve fallen into this pattern and it 100% goes against my grain. I love to plan, organize, and get ahead of the ball. When that’s not happening, I’m causing myself more stress.
- Write more.
To force my hand at this I actually created my own blog site (toughlikemom.com). Now I just have to load it up with content. Writing has always been an escape for me and I’d love to do more of it both personally and professionally.
- Create baby albums.
I never did this for either of my babies but I’d love to have them and be able to hand them off to my little guys when they’re older. This one always falls off the to do list. I reserve the right to punt this one into 2019 if things get too crazy this year ;-)
- Spend better time with my husband.
We actually spend a lot of time together. It’s like we’re directors on the set of an action packed comedy - only we’re not laughing. We then pass out next to each other around 9pm, lucky to make it through the news. When we do get a night away, it’s dinner out and home by 9. While I’m glad we’re partners in all of that, I want to make an effort to spend better time together. It was our sense of adventure and “open to anything” attitudes that brought us together and I’d love for our “us” time to be reflective of that - hiking, sledding (no kids), shooting, fishing, and whatever new activities we come across.
- Be more grateful and complain less.
I hit the jackpot when it comes to life. Everyday I’m surrounded by an amazing family who supports and loves me. I have a great job with great people and a lot of flexibility. I’m healthy and fit. It’s truly mind blowing (and disappointing) that most of my conversations start off with any of the following: “work is stressful”, “my kids are driving me nuts”, “teenagers are hard”, “my house is a mess”, “wah, wah, wah…” I really need to shut up and be grateful. Time to lead with the positive!
So there it is… my list of 10 things to accomplish in 2018 which means I can go ahead and cross the first item off the list. I’m already feeling better and more prepared.
I wish you all the best in 2018. Happy New Year!